#JOMO

Even though Psychology Today wrote about the “Joy of Missing Out” back in July,  I learned of the hashtag for it– #JOMO — this morning on Twitter thanks to Techno Claus @Pogue.  (Hang on, this will unfold into something worthy of #grappling. )  😎

First, tho, you have to know about #FOMO for any of this to make sense.

#FOMO = Fear of Missing Out   Missing what, you might ask…  anything, EVERYTHING!

I first saw a lot of #FOMO references on Twitter last year when Bitcoin (#BTC, #Cryptocurrency) was going wild.  I mean WILD… as in one bitcoin was trading for nearly $20,000.  Now that was a bubble! Geek that I am, I had bought a few — very few–  BTC back in 2015, so I had NO #FOMO. I was literally giddy. Not so much when BTC dropped back to around $3500 a month or so ago. (I could go on and on, but this is drifting far from the JOMO concept… sigh.)

Now I see both #FOMO and #JOMO are much older than I thought.  Here’s a blog post from 2015.

Let’s cut to the chase. The last thing we need heading into a new year is more fear. Most of America has been “hair-on-fire” anxious since 11.9.2016  Every day a new political crisis and more investigations will begin soon… how can we miss those? Oh, no… mo FOMO! So, now more than ever #JOMO — the Joy of Missing Out.  What?

Yes, as Buddhists would say, to change a habit we need an antidote.  Clinical psychologist Ben Michaelis, author of the Life blog (linked above), says;

The opposite of FOMO is capital G, Gratitude.

Gratitude? not Joy? Well, the concept is basically the same and both are a choice. Yes, they are — grapple with that.  (I keep using this term because it’s the title of my forthcoming eBook #grappling.)

Finally, David Pogue (@Pogue aka Techno Claus and soon to be Smarter Living writer @NYTimes) was on @CBS this morning explaining how we can use the #JOMO concept by taking a techno break:

I’ll be sharing more posts and ideas on how to establish healthy habits and ways we can find more joy and less angst in the new year. We can do this!

The “Method”…

In my considerable number of years seeking Truth and a path to peace (let’s say at least 40 years of seeking), I have found a handful of “tools” that truly work, ones I return to during “rough patches.” The Progoff Method is one. With America in a pretty rough patch now, this tool might be particularly useful.

Hard to define in a tweet, it’s a method of integrating and making sense of our life journey and charting our way forward. Hey, that will be a tweet!

Dr. Ira Progoff (1921 – 1998) studied privately under Carl Jung (mid 1950s in Switzerland) and then came back to America and specialized in depth psychology. Progoff was not keen on traditional therapy techniques, and eventually developed what we now call simply “The Method” which can be done individually, in private, without a therapist. How?  Continue reading

Grief

Apparently my last post was too philosophical, so let me just lay it bare… I am overwhelmed by feelings of loss, sadness and guilt which equal grief. Our journey ended Labor Day, September 3, 2018, at 8:16 pm. Isadora aka “Izzi” was 17 1/2 years old.

Here we are together at the Grand Canyon in 2009. She was eight here and I was…  well nine years younger than I am now.  People who have only seen her recently will gasp at what a big, strong dog she was in her prime. She weighed nearly 50 lbs here and trust me, I always felt safe traveling with her. My nickname for her was Growly Grrrrryl.  She was one mean bitch.GrandCanyon2009

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the Butterfly Effect

Without a long academic analysis of the phenomenon called the Butterfly Effect, I want to use the concept to bring together two divergent viewpoints–  the enlightened approach versus what we now call #Trumpism. Definitions will emerge, just as a butterfly does.

I used the term Butterfly Effect while writing about my current intense grief over losing my 17 1/2 year old. She was my K9, but that does not diminish my sadness. Rather than call everyone I know to cry and lament over my loss, I tried to take a more zen approach. Continue reading

The #LastWord

or the last laugh? With a little time to reflect on the spectacle of the past few days,  maybe this McCain-planned week of “hero tribute” and flag waving  was a final flip off to #Fake45. It was no secret that Trump was persona non grata (aka uninvited.)

During the nationally televised funeral of Senator John McCain I first felt inspired seeing former presidents and political enemies mingling. We later learned this bi-partisanship was created by assigned seating that purposefully mixed political foes, men and women, and various ethnicities. Very clever, Mr. McCain.

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Zero Tolerance?

State of the US flag 2018
“Star Mangled Banner”  by Carol Chamberland

How distorted and unrecognizable must things become for US to realize that our grand old flag is becoming a relic, much like its confederate cousin. Red, white and blue stood for unity. Red and Blue can’t even talk to one another these days and White is now a racist point of contention– not the purity those stripes were meant to evoke. We’ve become the Divided States. #SAD but true. Continue reading