#NastyWoman

hillaryI can’t speak for Hispanics, blacks or other minorities, when it comes to how offensive Donald Trump’s remarks have been, but I can speak as a woman. Calling Hillary or any of us a “nasty woman” is another attempt to belittle or reduce our value.  “Just more PC BS” you might say, as many Trump Twits claim online.  Well, labeling (as I just did to prove a point) in this day and age is ridiculous. Calling Mexicans “bad hombres” and women “nasty” (or rating us, as Trump is prone to do) is bigoted and sexist. If you don’t get it, then consider yourself “deplorable.”  HA!   Here’s why…

In the 1970s when Gloria Steinem was trying to raise consciousness about equality and human rights, men (and far too many women) were quick to label us and diminish the movement as “Women’s Lib” (liberation, if you’re too young to recall.) It devolved to disparaging name-calling and set back our efforts for equal rights.  I was called a FemiNazi even into the new millennium, by creeps who followed Rush Limbaugh and the “AM talk radio” brand of politics.  These are the folks who became “birthers” and now Alt-Right neanderthals.  (See how NASTY it is to label and it’s not effective.)  I lost all respect for them and still can’t hear anything they say.

Once the mud-slinging begins, we all tend to jump into the fray. Even Secretary Clinton who wants to “go high” found herself calling Trump supporters deplorable. Hard not to given the awful things they’ve said about her and anyone supporting her.  I’ve probably posted 100 nasty, name-calling tweets this election cycle about Trump.  I’m not proud of it, because I know it doesn’t work. I do it out of sheer frustration.

Those who most need to hear this message cannot hear me when I’m labeling and name-calling.  It’s just that simple.  We must find a way to restore civility to save our democracy. That “nasty woman” Rachel Maddow played this 2012 video of Republican Supreme Court Justice David Souter last night (Oct 20).  The entire link is about 10 minutes, but forward to 4:00 in and listen to what David Souter said about ignorance and the death of democracy.  This should be MUST viewing for anyone who calls themselves an American.

Vulgarity vs. Reality

It would be more fun to rant and rave about the outrageous video of #theDonald bragging about how he can grab women and f**k them, or how pathetic his so called apology was during the second Presidential debate. But I would be resorting to the same juvenile antics of this 70 yr old man who clearly is not suitable to be President of our U.S. government in 2016.

People are fond of saying “size matters” but what really matters is the state of our minds and the date on the calendar. It’s 2016 folks, not the 1970s (over 40 years ago) when Hillary represented an Arkansas man accused of rape. Read the FACTS!  (Trump supporters love to create their own reality in their fact-2016buttonfree world.  It took me less than 2 minutes to find the true story. )  You may ask why it matters that it’s now 2016.  Here’s why…

Time passes, we evolve, and societal norms change. Sure there are still people who chain up dogs, or even KIDS, as they used to chain slaves, but in 2016 none of those actions are the “norm.”  This is what I suspect Hillary was trying to convey when she called Trump supporters “deplorable.”  Labeling people won’t work either — it’s just as passe as chaining up “property.”  And that’s my point.  Women were chattel (property) in the not too distant past, as were slaves.  Many still consider their children and animals to be property that they can treat in any manner they want.  Cages and chains, whips and beatings are deplorable behavior. Trump supporters are wearing that label like a badge on twitter.  (Search “Deplorable” and you’ll see what I mean.) Name-calling is not a successful way to raise consciousness.  I know that and yet find myself so frustrated at times that I still do it. (Even His Holiness the Dalai Lama, our standard-bearer for compassionate behavior, poked fun at Trump for his outlandish behavior. That is a rarity!)

I’m sure more videos and testimony about Trump’s behavior will emerge. He was famous for being a playboy “back in the day.”  I already wrote about him and “Slick Willy” in my last post (Sex, Lies and Video tape…  or simply scroll down 😉  )  That was THEN and this is now.  Former President Bill Clinton simply hangs his head, having been through impeachment hearings 20 years ago mostly for LYING rather than his actual behavior.  IF Trump had truly apologized, we might have moved on.

The real problem is that Trump has not moved on. He can’t seem to move on.

He’s stuck along with his 40%  (give or take) of “deplorables” and cannot (thankfully) win.  That’s because more of us (and I hope this is true) have moved on. Call us “elites” but I prefer to say enlightened.  We know that animals have feelings so we don’t chain or beat them. We know that all men (and WOMEN) are created equal and that we all make mistakes.  The trick is not to wallow in our past or try to defend it. We learn and move on.  Forward, as President Obama said.  If we “search our heart” as GOP VP candidate Pence suggested, we might  acknowledge that we are less angry, more compassionate, and more aware in 2016… or as Hillary says  “Love Trumps Hate.”  So, hopefully the majority of voters will SEE Clearly (shameless plug for my book) and we truly can become Stronger Together.  No one person can fix the world and to my eye at least Hillary has learned that much.